It’s Monday and another wonderful weekend has come to pass. It was a good weekend to go out and have some fun. Brilliant time to go out on dates, easier on the pockets as well what with FIFA offers everywhere. But whose pockets? That is the real question isn’t it?
Maybe you’ll be happy to know that “Going Dutch” has become a trend in 2018. Breaking the greatest unwritten rules of chivalry and stereotypical breadwinner statuses with the rise in women’s greater earning capacities has left this “Old fashioned” tradition in the dust. But we’re not there yet. You can’t change generations of dating etiquette and gender roles overnight, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel and it’s REALLY close.
By the way, “Going Dutch” means every person pays for themself. In this case, they split the bill.
Let us give a slight insight to the history of this dating form. So, women were essentially seen as more reproductively valuable than males. And the men tried to “earn” their reproductive access with gifts and provisions. Reading this right now, it just seems like they were over-compensating because they didn’t know what life was supposed to mean for them. But we’re glad women aren’t seen as baby machines anymore.
It’s not just the male mentality at fault here though. Some women have been so used to this tradition that they start taking “the man paying” as a norm. They judge men for not offering to pay. But this thought process is poisonous! It’s a step back from everything that women have strived to achieve and it’s unfair for men to have to have to bear this responsibility just because of their gender.
If you’re not following the trend yet or don’t know how to, here are some tips to help you go dutch on your next date-
- Choose a restaurant that you both can afford.
- Always take into consideration the financial situation of the other person. Dates are meant to be about spending a nice time, not spending nice money.
- Communicate (this goes as a general suggestion for a better date overall).
Voice out your opinion. Tell the other person that you want to play an equal role in the equation/relationship.
- If the other person does end up paying the entire bill, you can pay it the next time. Balance it out.