While rushing behind materialistic goals, we have forgotten to acknowledge the real essence of life. We have normalized the habit of seeing life as a list of chores that needs to be accomplished. No matter how much we endeavor to achieve our life goals, we often find ourselves unhappy as we forget to live in the present. If you have trained your mind to believe that each moment of life should be taken seriously, then surely you aren’t building your way to a happy and prosperous future.
What are the things we’re missing when we are so much thoughtful of life? Why aren’t we enjoying the journey of life, or experiencing gratitude for every challenge? Why do we restrict ourselves from having fun or engaging in activities of pure presence?
What we and other overachievers like us think is, only goofs play and live happily. People who spend too much time at the bar, or on the beach are not working hard enough to earn a good life. Our conventional way of thinking suggests: “We can’t be successful and discover the pleasures of life at the same time. It’s either working at the cost of your happiness or simply don’t care and have fun!” Well, isn’t there something fundamentally flawed about this belief that the only way to find happiness is to spend a majority of our time being unhappy?
It’s already too late when we finally realize that we spent a lot of time understanding this. It has become such a habit that even when we have nothing big, urgent, or existential to worry about, we often have this feeling that we should be fretting about something. This feeling is nothing but pointless fear and seriousness. It’s a misbelief that - If I am not feeling overwhelmed or worried, then I’m not being serious enough.
There is so much beauty and brilliance in this life, so much to be grateful for, especially when we have chosen to live our lives on our own terms. There is bliss to be discovered. Once we achieve the bliss of life, we get a life where there’s so much joy abounding. All this becomes reality if we just stop taking life so seriously. Here are 10 reminders for the same.
Reminder No.1: Don’t rush things
When you stop rushing and slow down, you start to enjoy your life to the fullest. Things become more interesting. You worry less and you start caring for others. You tend to make fewer mistakes as you’re more focused.
But being in the present takes energy and intention. So next time you’re rushing your breakfast so you can go to work, realize that you’re not eating mindfully, which is very important. This habit of haste implies a feeling of lack. All it does is add stress and anxiety to your life.
So every day remind yourself with this question: “What’s the whole point of this rush?”
Reminder No.2: Let go of the grudge
Every day is a new beginning. Today you’re a whole new person. Forget about what someone said and did to you yesterday. What matters is that you have good intentions and care about your life more than anything else. Remind yourself this and do your best to make today the best day of your life.
Reminder No.3: Stop using others’ success as a parameter to measure yours
Out of all the reminders, this one is the most crucial. Life is not about being ahead of other people; it’s about being the best version of yourself. Stop comparing your life and success to that of others. Each one of us is different and we proceed in life at our own defined pace. Life turns out differently for everyone.
No matter how successful you are, there is always someone who’s doing better than you. You can’t deny this and paying attention to it ruins your own mental peace. Being competent is good in its own way. It pushes you to improvise and become better. Yet it’s important to remember that your life is good the way it is.
Reminder No.4: You can’t do everything in a single day
So you want to wake up, meditate, hit the gym, work, have lunch with friends, pick up a few things from the store, work on your hobby, complete watching a series?
Sure, you can cram everything you want to do in one day, but do you really need to? Some days in a week can be stressful, where we have no other choice but to finish all the tasks before time. But even after a busy schedule, we must find quality time for ourselves. We think we manage to do 10 things a day but our mind really needs to rest in order to function better. So plan your schedule wisely, stick to it, and spread out your activities over the week.
Reminder No.5: Do not work at the cost of your health
The well-known saying: “Health is wealth” is really precise. Good health is a boon. Maintaining good physical as well as mental health is essential to keep working towards your goal. You must eat healthy foods and avoid convenient snacking between work. Staying hydrated is extremely important. Overworking beyond human capacity is going to put a lot of strain on your body, leading to various health issues.
Reminder No.6: Don’t skip Exercise
Even if you are someone who hits the gym or at least exercises more than 5 times a week, might have felt of skipping exercise someday. It’s hard to convince yourself to work out every day. But, this is one thing you should NOT avoid.
Do you know why? When you develop this habit of skipping a workout, you start getting uneasy. Maybe your back starts hurting, or your legs will feel stiff. Your energy level and strength start dropping (Read more). Hence, at least try a 30-minute brisk walk to trick yourself. Just remind yourself how things get harder if you don’t exercise now whenever you feel like skipping.
Reminder No.7: You must make time to read books you enjoy
Sometimes we read buy a book and start reading because it’s “supposed” to be good. If you do so, you are mistaken. Try to read only those books that grab your attention with every sentence. You know how some books are hard to put down! So, choosing books from the genres you like is important to keep reading every day.
Reminder No.8: Don’t forget to keep a track of what you do every day
Putting your thoughts into words has many benefits. It’s a great habit to track down your accomplishment, thoughts, and ideas into a journal. It improves your logic, speech, and overall thinking skills. It calms you and provides a sense of mindfulness about what you’re doing each day. The greatest advantage of this is whenever you write in your journal, you remind yourself of the things that matter.
Reminder No.9: Take out time for your friends, family, and more importantly, yourself
Work and studies are definitely important, but we all need a break. Spend some quality time with your parents. Discuss your highs and lows with them. It might help you to think clearly and help you work with more positive rigor the next day. Hang out with your friends or engage yourself in activities you like. This refreshes the mind and increases productivity.
Reminder No.10: Life cannot always be perfect and it’s absolutely okay ;)
Life is never a straight path. Our life is filled with highs and lows, sadness and happiness, good and bad times. The way good times don’t last for long, bad times too doesn’t stay forever. Learn to face failures and convert them into opportunities to grow. The best lessons of life are learned during hard times and you must remind yourself of them every day. Embrace your flaws just like you embrace your perfections. So never let the lows or failures affect you much.
These are 10 simple reminders you must keep reminding yourself of every day. Following this will help your mind relax and find vivid interests in life and stay motivated. What’s really the point of so much hustle if it won’t allow you to enjoy and stay happy in life? After all, aren’t we all hustling to build a happy life?