Often, after the awkward conversation that almost always follows coming out to someone as pansexual, is a number of strange questions. Some questions are out of genuine curiosity and encouragement, while some, quite the opposite. Intrusive, irksome, repetitive, and most of all, annoying.
So here are some questions you should never ask a pansexual person, so you save everyone the embarrassment.
1. Isn't It Just A Fancy Word For Bisexual?
Being bisexual is completely different from being pansexual. Bisexuality is attraction towards only two genders. But pansexual people are attracted to people of every gender identity.
Being pansexual refers to when you have no sexual limitations in regards to someone's biological sex or gender identity. So no, they are not the same thing. Pansexuality is not trying to be special. Pansexuality is not another term for bisexuality. They are not the same.
2. This Means You're Attracted To Anything And Everything, Right?
Pansexuality is defined as not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity.
So no, pansexuality does not give you an excuse to try to compare it to - Incest, because no, they do not want to be in any type of romantic or sexual relationship with their family and or siblings, and you assuming so will only make everyone seriously question your own desires.
Paedophilia, because no, they do not, and most definitely, are not just using this as an excuse to try and be inappropriate with any minors in any type of way and you assuming so sheds a bad light on not only the pansexual community but the entire LGBT+ community as a whole.
3. Being Pansexual Means You Can Date More Than One Person, Right?
No, I believe what you are thinking of is polyamory. Polyamory and pansexuality are not the same thing.
Polyamory is a type of relationship where you date more than one person and there are multiple forms a polyamorous relationship goes so, the most you have to know about polyamory is that it is a consensual relationship going on between more than two people.
Meanwhile, pansexuality is a type of sexual identification that means you are not limited in sexual preference with regard to someone's biological sex, what gender they identify with, or what gender they are.
4. If you haven’t dated a trans or nonbinary person, how do you even know you’re attracted to them?
Every individual, regardless of sexual identity, has their own moments of realizing who they are attracted to, and everyone should respect that. Therefore, a person doesn't necessarily have to be with a particular gender in order to know that they are attracted to them - as one reaches puberty and sexual maturation, one’s sexuality develops along with it.
It's the same way you know you're straight, gay or bi.
5. So you must be having sex all the time?
Being sexually attracted to all genders does not mean they are having sex with everyone they find attractive. Sexual choices are extremely personal and asking anyone this is just plain rude. You would never like being asked the same, so why bother?
A good rule of thumb is don't ask a pansexual person a question you wouldn't ask someone of any other orientation and try to be polite. It's really that simple. And you always have Google to guide you through your weird, annoying or rude questions, so spare the pan person the pain.