Sacrificing your autonomy can be tough when you get into a relationship. Although it has its perks, a relationship comes with several commitments too. Bingedaily spoke to couples who tell us what is that one thing they reminisce about their single life.
Does a relationship curb a lot of your freedom?
It may be sunshine and puppies and rainbows, but being in a relationship does seem to be a hindrance to many’s social life - the freedom to go out and paint the town red. With every relationship, there comes a sense of 'us' that one is obligated to pay heed to.
Vanessa Fernandes and Wallace Noronha cannot agree more. “I miss being free and not having to think twice before making a decision,” says Vanessa. “I used to very often put myself first and do things for me. But now I do things for 'us'.” she adds.
Wallace, (like probably every other guy in a relationship) misses chilling with the boys, going to the movies, taking spontaneous trips to the most random places and basically getting a high out of life. "As opposed to being single and drunk texting random people, now there's just Vanessa on my mind and consciously or not I am drunk dialling her," says Wallace.
Now that is some serious work!
A relationship comes with a lot of restrictions!
“Being single? Phew, it is such a good life!” reminisces Shreya. Shreya and Aakash have been in a relationship for four years now and they say it is a roller-coaster ride that comes with its own set of challenges. “There are loads of responsibilities and the thing I miss the most is my ME time.”
Shreya thinks that when it comes to self-care, couples usually don't get time out of their daily chores and have to think twice before doing anything for themselves. “It may be hanging out with friends, staying up late, partying the night away, working 24x7 and more.”
Hobbies are a thing of the past often. “You are so passionate about something and then once you get into a relationship, that fades away. Single life has no restrictions and no boundaries. You are open to doing whatever you like.”
She then goes on to say out loud what every person in a relationship feels at least once during the course of it. Flirting and stalking. “Singles can at least flirt and stalk their crushes. Couples only focus on their partners.”
Aakash meanwhile misses the carefree mindset of being single. “I’d have unplanned bike rides with my friends. We would hit the road without a destination in mind. My gang would hang out on the streets binging on food and getting all the gossip from the girls.”
“Being in a relationship and being single is like living on both extremes of the planet. Life has changed completely, but it is great.”
Are the boys not getting their game-time?
Vaibhavi and Lokesh have been lovebirds ever since they can remember. Ask them what they miss about being single and they barely can recall a time when they weren’t in a relationship.
Vaibhavi says that however, the one thing that she does miss is her social life. “After I began dating, I kinda slowed down meeting my own set of friends and started hanging out with his friends more often. Not that I regret it. We’d just get one weekend to spend so I would try to spend it with Lokesh and this led me to distance myself from my friends.”
As for Lokesh and every guy who has his girlfriend around, it’s been waving goodbye to game-night. “After Vaibhavi coming into my life, I have cut down a lot on gaming. We spend all the free time that we get, together. She makes me happier than gaming so it’s definitely worth missing!” he says.
Are you having to ditch plans with your friends?
For every girl, a girl-gang is special. Getting together with your girl brigade and going all out on a shopping spree or a night on the town or clubbing or even a spa sesh is a chic’s unwinding time. So what about when a relationship happens? Does it fade away?
Resham says perhaps. Time with her girls is something she cherishes and always will. While it isn’t like they are at the other end of the world or cannot be reached with just a call or text, it is different. “Most weekends are busy and we spend them at home doing our thing and relaxing in our safe space,” says Resham. “So, yes. My girl-time has definitely hit a pause.”
As for Rishabh, he misses the game-nights and calling the boys over for their own version of chill time.
Does a relationship mean always doing things together?
Mayank and Mayuri absolutely love being in a relationship and cannot stop feeling the butterflies. Thinking back to the single life, Mayank says he does miss the things he would do alone and also the stuff he would get together with his friends for. “I miss binge-watching shows, movies and just about anything. Night-outs too are now not that frequent ever since I have started dating and that is something I would really look forward to.”
Once people get into a relationship, a frequent observation is that they begin doing everything together, and slowly detach from things that once were a big part of their lives.
Mayuri was big into drawing, crafts and everything art and now finds that she does not have much time on her hands for it, and that is an aspect of her single life that she misses much.
What about you? Is there something you crave about being single? Let us know.