Crystal blue waters, pagodas, lakes lit up with a thousand diyas, the Sun setting while you take your vows against the backdrop of the golden skies, away from the noise and hustle of the city, living your fairytale moment. Destination weddings have come to be quite the dream come true for many who simply want their perfect day to be just perfect. With wedding season almost upon us, your social media feed will start to reflect all of the above. However, with dreams and magic, there is also the issue of budget and logistics that go on behind the scenes. It is all well to hope for a wedding that resembles something like a YJHD, but is it really worth the trouble? We speak to couples who have had their fairytale romances in destinations that made for the prettiest pictures. Our question to them: Are destination weddings worth it?
What do destination weddings involve?
Simply put, a wedding that happens at a home away from home in a scenic location that is far from the hue and cry of the city is a destination wedding. The guests and the families are put up at the location for the duration of the wedding ceremonies, thus creating a sort of bubble of festivity in the spot. Like all weddings, destination weddings too, come with their fair share of conflicting ideas about food, themes, living arrangements and the rest. Amy Patel of The Storybook Events says that “creating a wedding vision involves a million different decisions that each in one way or another reflect on each other and at the end of the day blend together to create the vision”.
The kind of couple you are, also determines whether destination matrimony would work for you or not. Laidback couples who don’t need to check every minute detail before they tie the knot, or those who are okay with a planner overseeing everything and only themselves viewing the preparations of their big day, are the ones for whom destination weddings are great. This is due to the fact that when you are getting married at an outskirt location, there is too much to be seen to and probably the only time you will be able to see it for yourself is close to your big day.
These couples who have tied the knot movie style, get vocal on what they feel.
Which place is best for a destination wedding?
The beauty of destination weddings is that no matter which place you choose, it is perfect for you. Since there are no constraints of space that come with the traditional booking of halls etc. the wedding venue can be a lavish one and you can go all out to have your fairytale. Shreya Banerjee and Mudasir Bhat took this to the next level by having not one, but two destination weddings!
“We had our ceremonies in Kashmir, which is Mudasir’s hometown and Shillong which is my hometown,” says Shreya. “The best part about the wedding was that we celebrated it with the people we grew up with and with the entire families of both sides as it’s very difficult to make everyone travel to respective destinations. It was a beautiful experience, culturally rich as we got married at our birthplaces around the people we love. Our friends who flew down from Delhi and Mumbai combined this with a vacation and it suited everyone well.”
“ I feel blessed and I want every bride to just enjoy their special day to the fullest, destination or no destination.” - Shreya Banerjee
Stating facts, the couple says that the downsides would be the commercials involved as well as coordinating the travel of so many people, which was made trickier due to the COVID scene. “We did spend our savings and it went overboard but again, a wedding is a once in a lifetime expense and it’s every girl’s dream to have a lavish destination wedding.” Due to the COVID scene, downsizing on the guests had to be done, thus providing a little relief from the expenses, but to make up for it there were so many traditions from both cultures that had to be seen to and things did go a little over budget. “Another challenge we faced was taking leave from our respective jobs as we had to go to two ends for the function. All in all, it was a beautiful experience that went on for a whole month. Destination weddings get tiring but who does not like to dress up?”
Why are destination weddings so popular?
What is a wedding if it isn’t on Instagram? In today’s digital age, what every bride is really looking for is the perfect wedding pictures and when you have setting suns, white sands, pink cities, palatial views, these just make the hype worth it!
Anisha Deepak and Pramod Mohanan absolutely swear by a destination wedding simply for the fact that it provides a sense of excitement and adventure. The city is noisy and a well-deserved break from this hustle is the best gift a couple could ask for. “ The fresh feeling of the location with the excitement of your wedding is what makes destination weddings so special. In addition to it being great for the couple, it is also a kind of vacation for all your wedding guests. Not to mention that when held in an exotic location, you end up with stunning wedding pictures!”
A new trend that has emerged in the wedding market is that of pre-wedding shoots. A destination wedding makes it possible to have the shoot in the same location with all the props you want and get some amazing pictures! Anisha is a bride who wanted minimal drama on her wedding day and she recounts how with having a wedding away from the city, the ceremony was more intimate and less drama. That being said, the couple points to the biggest con according to them, that of not being able to invite all the guests.
Does a destination wedding give more time for bonding?
For Anmol Bhatia and Ravipal Parhar, their wedding in Cabo was scenic for more reason than just the serene waters and frenzied conga lines. They speak of how ironically the last thing to worry about during a destination wedding is the decor.
“You’re getting married at a beautiful location, so any decor on top is just an extra.” Another aspect that made the experience more memorable for the couple was that having an all-inclusive resort wedding gave the family space to breathe, put their feet up, relax and unwind, which definitely would not be the case in a traditional wedding setup.
“A challenge is that all the traditions of a wedding can be difficult to complete at the said destination. But then again, make the most of what you have.” - Anmol Bhatia and Ravipal Parhar
“It was perfect because all of our close friends and family were staying there the whole week, so we spent a great amount of time together. Another thing we loved is that we felt like everyone was really were able to enjoy the wedding. We’ve noticed that at weddings that happen locally, family members are usually stressed, running around trying to take care of things. We had a wedding planner in Cabo who really assisted in taking care of everything and people were able to eat and enjoyed all day on their own and with each other. So this was definitely less hectic and a vacation for the guests!”