I have had my fair share of dates and I have split the bill almost every time. Except for when the dude refused to take my money at all. Which was sweet honestly, it felt special. But also a little too awkward. It felt like I owed him something after that, but I never saw him again, so that's good I guess?
Here's the thing though, who does pay on the first date? Is there some rule? Traditionally, it's the man who pays. According to the tradition, the man pays simply because he's a chivalrous gentleman. It also shows a sense of financial stability and interest to marry the woman.
That's the traditional way of looking at it, but now, when everyone is campaigning for gender equality and women earn for themselves and are independent - does the man still have to pay?
There's no real answer to this, but men and women have come up with their own rules to figure out the big question. We spoke to a few men and women to see how they go about it.
Who Pays On The First Date?
"I think the best way to go about it is to split. I ate food, so did he. Each to their own - especially on the first date. I mean if there's going to be more dates, we can always pay alternately, but what if you don't want to meet him again? I don't want to feel like I owe someone when I'm never even going to see them again. It's too weird. I like splitting the bill, it makes me feel involved and it feels mutual." Shivani, 27, Social Media Manager.
"I always split, unless the guy is persistent that he wants to pay, in which case I just pay for the next date. It's only fair. I know that men have been raised to think that they should be paying for dates but I earn and I can pay for myself, so I should. The easiest thing is to split though, I hate feeling like the guy has to "take my burden" or whatever - it's a weird thought, but I hate it." Drishti, 28, Photographer.
"I eat a LOT. My share of the bill will usually end up higher which is why I pay for the whole bill. For example, if the bill is 100 bucks, why should she pay 50 when her bill is 20 and mine is 80? It's not fair. Paying those extra 20 bucks makes more sense to me. So I insist on paying the whole bill and if she does want to split, we end up paying for we ate respectively. It's not fair for her to pay more." Siddharth, 24, CA.
"There's nothing wrong with the guy paying on the first date, till you pay for the second one. it's a balance. If you know you're never going to see the guy again, split it. But if you do consider a second date just pay for that one - balanced. If there's going to be a further relationship, it's probably best to do that, one for one. It's simple." Richa, 21, Dancer.
"I prefer if the girl tries to split the bill. I still pay every time, but the fact that the girl shows that she wants to pay means something. It's not like freeloading then, she's genuinely interested and there to hang out with you - not just the free food or drinks. It's nice when they thank you later or pay for the next one, it shows genuine interest." Kartikeya, 25, Psychologist.
What do you think? Who pays on the first date, the man, the woman or do you just split?