Not everyone is comfortable with the idea of a sex party. If you’re one of those that enjoy a quiet night out or a chilled house party, it is surely not for you. But we’ll all have to accept that one way or the other, we’ve thought about it.

The thought of how an orgy would be like or how it would be to actually attend a sex party in real life and not just read about it online is a thought everyone has had at one point or the other.

Even the concept of a sex party is rare in a country like India. At a place where we fail to even talk about sex openly, can someone really have a sex party?

While we know that it is a huge task to pull off, but if anyone of you actually plans on doing one, here’s everything you need to plan the perfect sex party in India.

Don’t Call It A Sex Party

Contrary to what you think, a sex party isn’t just a full-blown out orgy wherein everywhere and everyone you see is just having sex. Well, that not how it starts out anyway. It is important to understand that consent, respect and personal space just don’t get thrown out of the window when you enter the premises of a sex party. You still have to be respectful, and no one is under the compulsion to sleep with you just because the two( or more) of you have met each other at the party.

Calling it a “Sex Party” attaches a negative connotation to it. That’s true especially in a country like India, wherein the term will attract a whole lot of wrong people with incorrect expectations if not communicated properly. Don’t call it an orgy though, because there’s a whole lot of difference between the two. orgies are typically considered to be wild, uninhibited drunken fuck fests where anything goes. A ‘sex party’ is an event where there’s a little more structure to the evening.

A sex party is a whole lot more than just plain sex. Sure, that’s the point of it, but the party is a representation of everything that’s good about sex, from seduction, freedom to even romance

Set up Boundaries

As stated, a sex party will only work if everyone there is comfortable. For that, it’s essential to set a few ground rules to ensure everything sails smoothly. For you to create a safe space for everyone present, you need to ensure that all of them are on the same page. For example, decide a way to establish consent, a statement of sorts to ensure no one misjudges it. Similarly, you can even suggest a compulsory introduction to make sure everyone is aware of each other’s backgrounds and preferences

Plan your Guest List

The most difficult part of the party has always been this, and that holds true for a sex party as well. When choosing guests, consider your guy to girl ratio if the majority of your male guests are straight. If you have some friends who identify more as flexible, you can increase the number of men in the event to allow for a good amount of couplings. In the end, you’ll have just as much fun in a group of four than with a group of more if you bring the right people together.

Encourage a Dress Code for the Sex party

While this may seem trivial to you when it comes to planning a sex party, it is one of its most important aspects. Your dress code can vary depending on the location of your party, the people that are expected to come and how you want the entire to mood to be. Ban sweats, shorts, flip flops and any other items that would be filed in the “sloppy mess” section of someone’s closet. If you expect a large number of people to attend, you could always go with the classic black tie code of dressing. If you’re following a particular theme, then make sure you suggest dressing for that accordingly. Putting a Pinterest board together of suggested attire isn’t a bad idea either.

Have protection and tools available

What’s a sex party if it’s not kinky and over the top. Just like any other party, you’ll need to stock up stuff for this one too. The only difference is, the things you buy. Make sure you have everything from condoms, dental dams, lube to even sex toys if you want to spice things up.

From deciding the food to choosing the best booze, the party planning list can be never-ending. There’s a lot more that you need to do, such as choosing themes and developing the perfectly curated playlist. While the idea of throwing a sex party can sound impossible at first, we’re sure if you actually manage to host it, it'll be one hell of a ride. Pun Intended.