You have heard about those stories where people grow up with their childhood friends and have equations that stand the test of time. But what about the stories that speak of making friendships as an adult? Well, no one speaks of those but they deserve a mention too. If you are looking to form a gang, a bunch of people you can hang out with or simply have a circle, it is never too late to form one. Here is a guide on how to go about making new friends as an adult.
Bumble BFF assists you in making new friends!
When it comes to adulthood, the easiest and most accommodating way to go about things is by downloading an app! So also with making new friends. The popular app Bumble has introduced a Bumble BFF feature that enables you to swipe right and then goes on to employ the same algorithms that it would do if you were looking to match with someone, but here it gets you a friend instead! Cool, right?
Once you find your circle, you take it forward. Hang out, find reasons to meet up and simply go about making new friends that have similar interests as you.
Finding people whom you interact with while making new friends
If you are part of a hobby class, a gym session, an aerobics gig or simply a meditation course, chances are you have more in common with your fellow classmates than anyone you can guess. You may have not ventured into the friendship zone yet with these people, but with so much time that you spend with them, the ice has already been broken and that’s the first step to making new friends.
Mixing business with pleasure, sometimes?
A big NO has always been associated with hanging out with your work colleagues as you’ve wanted to keep your personal and professional lives apart. However, it could be great to hang out every once in a while with the office buddies as this would go a long way in fostering work equations too. When it comes to making friends, bonding over work shenanigans can be really easy.
Respond to Facebook groups
You’re an adult and you have a set of skills that others may be looking for. Whether someone wants to learn to brew or is looking for someone who has a second-hand guitar or even wants to know about sharing a room space, responding to these Facebook ads entails connecting with a person at the other end of the algorithm. You may just end up finding a cool roommate, a friend for life, or someone you can have a drink with. How does it sound?
Your friends have other friends
Simple to follow, right? Your best friend definitely has friends you don’t know of. Why not go out with them sometime? They will introduce you to other friends and before you know it, you have a great big circle that you hang out with.
You don’t have to focus on making best friends
While on your journey to making new friends, bear in mind that you do not have to be in the quest of making lifelong ones. Let the process be natural and if something clicks, that’s great! If it doesn’t, you still have the kind of casual friends you can chill with.
“The club isn’t the best place to find a friend so the bar is where I go!”
Ed Sheeran’s lyrics hold true whether it’s love or friendship! Making new friends during adulthood can be tricky and advising you to go to a park or find some in your building is easy but we all know the space where a maximum of adulthood is spent. The next time you’re at the bar, be open to meeting someone new, having a drink with a stranger, or simply dancing with one.
Events for networking
There are several organisations that have events that encourage meeting new people and socialising with those you don’t know. If you are an introvert, it would be wonderful to attend the online versions that are happening. A great way to interact and talk to those you haven’t ever seen. Who knows, you could well end up meeting someone interesting and make it out of your pyjamas to go out with them!
Go on a solo trip!
Naina from Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani got herself a whole new set of friends whom she’d never expected to have a life adventure with. How did it happen? A trek. An unplanned one. Some of the best friendships happen in the mountains where Maggi is the only survival kit and the rain sounds are the only background noise. A place where there isn’t connectivity and there are miles to walk and talk and late-night tent stories to catch up on.
Join a club!
If you simply scroll through Instagram, you’ll see that there is a club for almost every hobby and passion. Right from books to films to art to sciences, you name it and you have it. Simply join one and share your enthusiasm for this leisure with others who love the same! Host quizzes, discussions and talks. There is nothing like bonding over conspiracy theories that goes on to make lasting friendships.
Couple your love for doing something good for the community by making new friends. Volunteer at a place where you’ve always wanted to and you’ll be surprised just how a common passion for doing good can go a long way in being your survival guide to friendships!
Tell us what finally got you making new friends and we’ll feature the best story!