As someone who hasn't been a part of huge friend groups, I tend to cling on to the two friends I have. I never thought I'd need more than that, but after both my friends graduated and moved to different cities, it became slightly more difficult to just be by myself.
I had my share of dating apps from 2016-2019 and after one successful year of dating someone I met on Tinder - I decided to go back to dating apps. But this time, to make friends. Odd as it seems, it was a decision me and boyfriend made together.
Both of us tend to rely on the two friends we have and that's about it - we decided it would be a good idea to use an app. So we signed up for Bumble and made a profile. Here's how things went down. But first things first, why Bumble?
What is Bumble for Friends?
Bumble app is very obviously a dating app, but it also has two other modes. One is Bumble BFF and the other is Bumble Bizz. Bumble BFF is pretty obvious - it's to make friends! And Bumble Bizz is for networking and business.
It seemed pretty cool that the app had a separate section for making friends. You know how people react when you tell them you're only there to make friends on a dating app. So this seemed perfect for us.
The Profile On Bumble BFF
Since there were two of us, we crafted the profile accordingly. We put pictures of the both of us, answered all the questions as a couple and even put both our names on the profile.
Six pictures - mostly of us doing stupid things and a bio that plainly read "Two people with two friends who are each other. It'd be great to talk to someone who is not us." We found it funny to keep it so desperate yet real.
We even answered the questions similarly. The first question was "Why are you using Bumble BFF?" and we answered - "Friends nahi hai yaar" (we don't have friends, dude.) So the profile pretty much sounded like a desperate call for friends - which it probably was.
The Swipe To Find Our Bumble Friends
We have had our share of swiping on dating apps and we know how it goes, but with friends, the criteria change. You care less about the profile pictures and more about the profile. So we pretty much swiped on anyone who had a fun bio, and cool answers.
We didn't care about how they looked, or where they were from (except if they were from Navi Mumbai - that's a bit much.) The swiping brought back very familiar anxiety - no one likes us.
But after using it for a few hours, we got a few matches and we got really excited about it.
Matching with Bumble Friends
Surprisingly, a lot of my college mates were on the app and I ended up matching with them as well. Who then ghosted us. Which didn't hurt at all. Not a bit.
We matched with one dude and a whole lot of women - based on our swiping we realized there a lot more women on the app than men. The first few people seemed to be very confused that two people were running one account.
Plus only one of us could text at a time since the app was only logged in on one phone. Apart from all the "who's talking" confusion - we ended up talking to two really cool people. Ironically, they both ended up having the same name.
Other conversations died out in a matter of minutes so we really were just talking to two people with no other distractions.
Meeting Our Bumble Friends
The conversations went great and we ended up meeting both of those people - separately. The first person - let's call her Riya - brought her roommate along with her. (let's call her Tanvi) We were really excited because this was the first person we were meeting off the app.
Thanks to my terrible time management, we ended up being late to the friend date but it was alright. Riya and Tanvi were 20 and 18 respectively, which was fine - even though we were older it didn't matter. But the whole thing became awkward a little too fast. They seemed like great people but they were aa little too judgy for us.
The second person we met was actually fun - let's call her Ritu - we liked her even before we met. But with all that hype around her - she turned out to be quite different from her texting personality.
Both the meetings went pretty okay - but as soon as we got out of the date we decided we were probably not going to meet these people again.
Is Bumble for Friends, Final Thoughts!
Does bumble for friends work? Well, our experiences with Bumble BFF went pretty different from what we expected but we did feel like we should meet people in real life more so I can't say it was a total fail. The whole app experience is fun, but don't expect to meet your best friend in a single meeting or match.
Overall, the whole experience was pretty fun and cool and if you're looking to meet friends and maybe hang out with a couple of people on a weekend - it's a perfect fit.