A beautiful union where two people find their soul mates, fall for each other and want to become a part of their life, that’s when they come together in a relationship. All you expect is love, attention & happiness. But sometimes things don’t seem to work out the way you thought they would. Certain aspects at some point in your relationship, make you rethink your own decisions. At this instance, you start questioning: Did you mistakenly conceived your partner as a soul mate? Or is it you who failed to cope up with the demands of a relationship?
Whatever it be, it is always advisable to leave a relationship when someone makes you feel horrible to continue with. The thing is, we often let our emotions cloud judge everything, especially when it comes to dating. But learning how to recognize these early signs that a relationship won't work out, or that your partner is incompatible to stay with, you can save yourself a lot of pain and regret down the road.
So, rather than simply forgiving, and forgetting, like most people often do, here are 7 red flags in dating, you need to start looking out for.
1. They always agree with you
Does your partner like all the same things you like or share all the same views and opinions as you? Well, it's certainly nice that you get along so well. You need to be watchful of the people who seem to agree with you on about everything. They may not be telling you the truth or showing you their real selves. It's likely that they're just telling you all the things to make them seem more likable because the truth is, no two people will ever see eye to eye on everything.
There are differences in opinion and these are what make us who we are. Where there are differences, clashes occur and that's completely okay. If the person you're dating feels the need to change who they are just to please you, then it's never going to work out, too. They hide things from you and struggle to communicate properly with you. It's a definite red flag if you can't be open with each other about how you feel or what you think.
2. They don’t share much
Do you ever notice that your partner avoids talking about their feelings or doesn't share much about themselves? Do they keep you away from their friends and family? Or do they always leave you guessing about what they've been doing? While everyone certainly has a right to their privacy, you can't emotionally connect with someone who's afraid to be vulnerable with you. So if you find it difficult to know what’s going in your lover’s mind, try to talk it out. But if they are still not ready for those “deep conversations” then it’s a clear sign that they don’t trust you.
3. They don't prioritize you
Does the person you're dating seem too busy for you sometimes? Do they spend most of their time with work, academics or, other people in their life? Do they often cancel on you at the last minute, or take forever to return your calls and messages? While you certainly can't demand anyone's time, dating someone who can't fit you into their busy schedule isn't going to be easy.
The fact that they're already struggling to juggle so many other priorities in their life is a clear sign that they're not ready for a serious relationship, or maybe they're dismissive of you. These are some things you cannot ask your partner to do. If your presence really matters to them, they’d never let you feel left out.
4. The way they talk to you
Another warning sign you need to look out for is how the person you're dating talks to you. Are they encouraging and supportive or they are condescending and dismissive? Do they always have to have their way and assert that they're right? Or are they open to listening to your ideas?
Well, having a partner who talks down to you and doesn't take you seriously isn't something you want for yourself. They might try to pass it off as – “I know it better”, and encourage you to just trust them and go along with it. But you need to realize that you deserve to be with someone who respects your opinion and gives you a say in the relationship.
5. They easily get jealous
While it's never something we want ourselves or our romantic partners to feel, but sooner or later, jealousy is bound to find its way into relationships. It's not a deal-breaker in and of itself if your partner feels jealous or insecure. But sometimes, what really matters is how they deal with your partner’s sense of insecurity. If you're dating someone who seems to get jealous all too easily, you might want to watch out. In the future, there might be a good chance that it will soon make them paranoid and controlling.
6. They make you second guess their thoughts
Most of us know that when you've just started dating somebody, you need to be cautious and understand how you navigate the waters. You don't want to come on too strong or seem very needy, because you always want to leave them wanting more. But at a certain point in your relationship, they are expected to start making an effort to show their feelings. Because if they don't, it’s obvious that they're not ready for a serious commitment, or just not as invested in the relationship as you are. Whatever the reason may be, dating someone who plays with your emotions and doesn’t value your efforts is never a good idea.
7. They talk badly about their exes
Do they constantly bring up their ex during conversations or sometimes compare you to their last relationship while arguing? Do they tell you every little private detail about their last relationship? You need to remember that if you and this person ever did become serious and eventually break up, there's a good chance they'll treat you the same way later.
The fact that they feel the need to bash their exes while talking and make them look like the “bad guy” just goes to show that they're still hurting over their most recent breakup and could be looking to you for a rebound. You cannot help them heal and thus, need to let them go.
Read More: Why Do We Keep Going Back To Our Ex?
A piece of advice-
When the relationship always infuses into a sad feeling, then the relationship is not beneficial for you. Thirst for happiness is said to be the driving force behind every action in human life and so are relationships. When the relationship offers you unhappiness and guilt, rather than peace, then going ahead with the relationship is not meaningful.
If you at all relate to any of the signs mentioned in the list, then you should make a decision as soon as possible.
If you are dating someone who shows some of these very same red flags then you must analyze if this all is the result of your own mistakes and mentality or caused by the instances in the relationship. If it is ignited by the relationship issues, then the relationship is, indeed, destructive for you. Don’t ignore them and do the right thing!