We are smart. We are informed. We are educated. We are independent. We are self-aware. We are millennials, who have everything in the world.
EVERYTHING BUT PRIVACY
With all that is available at our disposal, there is still one thing that most of us still crave for – freedom. Enjoying your youth can be a completely different experience in India as opposed to anywhere abroad. Moving out of parents’ house is almost a norm in the western countries, but introducing this concept in our brings our mothers to tears, and fathers to raise their voices and launching their ‘humaare zamaane mein’ speech.
They have given up a lot to raise us. While we know and acknowledge that, the overprotective nature of parents becomes intrusion, leaving us with little or no personal space to tend to our needs. The irony of India being one of the most populated countries but sex not being part of any open discussions at home is now the truth of our lives.
India has a population of billions, which means millions having sex at the same time and yet never talking about it. Right from the teenage years to the early twenties, where we move a step closer our sexual awakening, it has been difficult to grow up in an environment where every movement is monitored and judged in a limited space of a middle-class household.
POSSIBILITY POST 12 AM
The bedrooms do not guarantee any privacy – it’s the absence of people that does. Even today, be it a teenager or a newly-wed couple in the house, there is always someone lurking around for anybody to be able to indulge sexually.
Night time comes as somewhat a relief to those who want to make love, or fly solo. Dating is a relatively new concept slowly finding its way to acceptance into the urban parent’s psyche, but in smaller towns that work purely on family values, it is next to impossible to get someone you love, or lust after into your house without sneaking them inside in the middle of the night.
And perhaps it is this fear that makes sneaking in and out of houses full of elders that makes sex more adventurous for young couples. But thin walls, nosy parents and raging hormones make sex the most awkward thing for everyone, and a contemptuous subject if brought up in public.
ARE THE DOORS REALLY CLOSED?
Lack of privacy affects everyone. It is not just snickering intrusive aunties that we dread, their generation would dread us too if we were to snoop around their sex lives. Who wants to be Monica stuck in the bathroom listening to Jack and Judy doing it. There are scarring details of our parents’ sex lives that we wish we would never know. And yet, living with parents comes with the hazard of knowing their sex lives exist.
The concept of knocking while entering a room, even if it were of a newly-wed couple is alien. Consummating a marriage is, therefore, a public phenomenon in India – subject to random chacha ji and mama ji giving unsolicited advice on improving the man’s sexual performance.
WALK OF SHAME
Us millennials watch firang TV series and go out clubbing on weekends. And yet, bringing up sex in front of our parents happens to be one of the most dreadful things we can imagine. If they ever knew about our sex lives, the overwhelming shame would be the worst thing to happen to us. No wonder managing to get laid is considered a major feat in today’s time.
Even now, if we were to think of doing something funky, locking the room would only bring you doubt and shaming from the family. It is safe to say that the billion Indians that make all the noise outside have to fulfill their desire with muffled outcries and quick sessions. Foreplay? Huh, what’s that?
Our choice to perceive sex in public as flowers tickling each other with sitar in the background, completely choosing to ignore the fact that their children, in fact, are grown up and have active sexual lives.