Let’s be honest, there isn’t a way to be 100% safe while sexting. Even if you’re using Snapchat, even if you love and trust your partner, even if you’d bet all your life’s savings on them – there’s no way to tell what a sour relationship can make you do, or a way to foolproof anything that’s shared digitally. The conversation can’t be limited to just safe sex anymore – we need to talk about safe sexting as well.
Let’s start by establishing that the sexting we are talking about involves consenting adults. If you’re sending unsolicited dick pictures to people you may or may not know, you deserve to be called out and shamed for your behaviour that borderlines assault.
Whatever you do through the means of the internet or technology, you will be leaving behind a digital footprint. It’s important for you to understand that and gauge rewards vs risks. Whether you’re sexting your significant other, someone you’re casually dating or someone you still don’t know very well, sexting can be fun, and well, sexy. While spontaneity is great it’s important to talk to your partner about what is and is not okay. What’s off limits? Is initiating such a conversation when your partner is at the workplace all right? Sexting for me could mean sending semi-nude pictures, while for someone else it could be just opening a button or two. It’s important that you’re both comfortable! Please don’t sext if you’re not. It’s easy to get pressured into doing something your partner wants to, but it’s also very easy for that to go wrong.
90% of sexting has to do with trust. And of course you trust your partner, what’s a relationship without that? But make sure they understand that pictures – or even messages – are just for them. No best friends, no keeping the phone unlocked. It’s not fun to talk about this, but revenge porn is something that happens often, as does blackmailing your ex-partner through photos. Think Four More Shots, American Vandal or just think the countless news articles about ex-lovers leaking nudes. You can’t trust who your partner will be once y’all split, but you can trust who they are now. Make Screenshots a no no.
If you’re sexting someone you’re not in a relationship, this gets a bit trickier because you know them but do you really know them? A guy my friend was sexting asked her if he could screenshot a picture he wanted to – she allowed that but messaged him two days letter, asking him to delete it, which he did, even sending pictures of him deleting it from the screenshot folder as well as the recently deleted folder.
Another thing you must know - SNAPCHAT IS NOT A FOOLPROOF METHOD OF SEXTING. There are applications that can save every Snapchat you receive (please don’t find and download them). It’s also very easy to click pictures of the snap from another device. I’d recommend not saving the chat on Snapchat as well. Words can be as damming as pictures!
Send nudes, but send them carefully!